Hi! You may have noticed that things reset a couple days again...or maybe you didn't since there was only a couple of posts over the last few days. Anyway, things are 100% fixed now and we even got back the avatars and uploaded images that were lost in the previous fix.
As a late response to Silver's diet comment... Carbs are good for energy but starches (a lot of which are also good sources of carbs) and sugars are the things mostly likely to turn into fat (much more likely, ironically enough, than fats).
Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
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Saber Knight
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Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hey.
Once again, the second I let my walls down and allow myself to get my hopes up for something, I get screwed over. I always think it'll be different but it never is. I just wish more my friends were back on campus because I need people to distract me. Ugh.
Once again, the second I let my walls down and allow myself to get my hopes up for something, I get screwed over. I always think it'll be different but it never is. I just wish more my friends were back on campus because I need people to distract me. Ugh.
May the Triforce be with you.
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
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Silver
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Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
I assume this is relationship trouble? It's either that or you adopted a gold fish, let down your walls and became very attached to it and it went belly up...
Fortunately, I have the perfect response to deal with either situation: There are plenty of fish in the sea!
...No, I'm sorry, I know that's like the worst thing to say to someone in that situation. After all, you were clearly attached to the one you had, and trying to replace them never works. It's either a totally different experience and it doesn't fill the hole, or else you just end up projecting your expectations only to be let down. Either way, there's way too much pressure on their end and it's rather frustrating.
Now I know THIS is what you're actually going to hear from everyone, and I know it sucks, but... just give it time. Maybe things will work themselves out. Or maybe they won't, but by then, you'll have had time to move on and look back on what you had. You can't see these things clearly while it's there, but hind sight is twenty twenty. Maybe it wasn't worth it in the first place. Think about yourself sometimes too, not just the other one, and try to decide what you really want.
Maybe a lizard is a better choice than a fish. You can re-use the tank, too!
...What did I say?
Fortunately, I have the perfect response to deal with either situation: There are plenty of fish in the sea!
...No, I'm sorry, I know that's like the worst thing to say to someone in that situation. After all, you were clearly attached to the one you had, and trying to replace them never works. It's either a totally different experience and it doesn't fill the hole, or else you just end up projecting your expectations only to be let down. Either way, there's way too much pressure on their end and it's rather frustrating.
Now I know THIS is what you're actually going to hear from everyone, and I know it sucks, but... just give it time. Maybe things will work themselves out. Or maybe they won't, but by then, you'll have had time to move on and look back on what you had. You can't see these things clearly while it's there, but hind sight is twenty twenty. Maybe it wasn't worth it in the first place. Think about yourself sometimes too, not just the other one, and try to decide what you really want.
Maybe a lizard is a better choice than a fish. You can re-use the tank, too!
...What did I say?
"Irregardless" and "Over exaggerated" are NEVER CORRECT EVER because they are redundant
Regardless means "without regard", and adding "ir" on the front actually makes it a double negative; exaggerate means "to overstate" so you're literally saying "over overstate."
Example: I can not exaggerate the importance of this fact enough, regardless of how often people ignore it.
Regardless means "without regard", and adding "ir" on the front actually makes it a double negative; exaggerate means "to overstate" so you're literally saying "over overstate."
Example: I can not exaggerate the importance of this fact enough, regardless of how often people ignore it.
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hi! I don't think I can really say much that Silver hasn't already, but he is right. A lot of relationships just don't work out (especially ones that are entered into with someone you haven't known for a long time) and lot of fish die. It can be really hard at the time but, eventually things will get better and you move on and find a new person/fish/whatever. Just hang in there and remember that we're here for you.
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Had the worst luck today and its only 9am!
I was driving to the airport last night to collect one of my friends when my check engine light went yellow. That's fine as it means a minor fault, so I've had a relative who is a mechanic give me a lift to work while he looks at it, only for an English version of a blizzard to hit and people telling everyone we might have to go home early, when I've arranged to get my car back at home time at 5pm....I might have to get the bus home!
it was only a few days ago I knocked my bumper off.
My collage course has been canclled due to lack of numbers
I was sick all over Christmas and New year
I nearly ruined my coat because a cooked chicken I bought leaked.
I'm having no luck recently!
I was driving to the airport last night to collect one of my friends when my check engine light went yellow. That's fine as it means a minor fault, so I've had a relative who is a mechanic give me a lift to work while he looks at it, only for an English version of a blizzard to hit and people telling everyone we might have to go home early, when I've arranged to get my car back at home time at 5pm....I might have to get the bus home!
it was only a few days ago I knocked my bumper off.
My collage course has been canclled due to lack of numbers
I was sick all over Christmas and New year
I nearly ruined my coat because a cooked chicken I bought leaked.
I'm having no luck recently!
"BOW BEFORE THE SHAUNINESS THAT IS SHAUNI! "--Shadowman
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Well, my car has been fixed at the cost of £200+...also it has been snowing all day, which means due to the UK's naff snow clearance it will be a nightmare to drive home and tonight it will freeze over and it will be even worse to drive in tomorrow.
Awesome
Awesome
"BOW BEFORE THE SHAUNINESS THAT IS SHAUNI! "--Shadowman
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
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Saber Knight
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Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hey.
Yup, I got back to college on Sunday and my girlfriend broke up with me on Monday. So that wasn't fun. Her reasons were that we "never have anything to talk about anymore" and "we're in such different places" because she's all thinking about her future and kids and a family and I'm all I've got 3 years of college left (which was a reason we weren't originally going to date in the first place) and "it feels different now." Which, I'll give her that last one. It did feel different when I got back, but it's because she was acting weird. The last few days of break, I started to get worried because it started to feel weird between us, but I'd hoped I'd at least have a few days back with her to try and make things work. But she believes that "a good relationship shouldn't need work" because apparently that's what her folks taught her and they have a relationship... call me cynical, but I just don't see how that could be a thing.
So I ended up texting her to meet up and talk for a bit on Thurs. Since I never know the right time for anything/humor is my coping mechanism, I basically continuously made bad jokes as I said everything I wanted to say. Ex "I'm kind of new to this whole break-up thing, how long do we traditionaly have before we get to be friends again" to which she was all "Well of course we'll still be friendly, but you shouldn't be close friend with someone you're not over. So when you're over me" and I was all "how long does that take?" and she was all "I don't know; it depends" and I was all "how will I know?" and she was like "you'll know" and I was all "you know I'm bad with this kinda stuff" and she was all "well, call me when you've made out with someone or have a crush on someone else" and I was all "you know I rarely get crushes. So all I have to do is go make out with someone and we're friend again?" and I don't know why I'm writing so much of this out. Y'all get the point.
Anywho, this weekend also indoor drumline camp, which we're both in. However, yesterday she couldn't make it due to a training seminar she had to go to. So I ended up seeing her at pep band that night, and she was being all weird and avoidy despite the fact that I told her I didn't want that because I wanted things to go back to normal as quickly as possible. Regardless, I pulled her aside to talk after pep band. And (if you're still reading at this point, go you!) this time I was all "You said that we get to be friends again when I'm over you. Does that mean you're over me?" and she was all "I said when we're over each other" to which I was all "no you said when you're over me" (I really, really think she did) and she was all "no I didn't" and I was all "so that means you're not over me?" to which she was all "I'm not over you." And then she didn't come to indoor drumline today because she apparently doesn't feel well... and I'm probably overthinking things, but that's just so out of character for her to not go to a rehearsal because she's feeling unwell.
Mreh. I'm just frustrated. This just doesn't seem like enough to end a relationship that had made both of us so happy. And we were gonna break up at the end of the year anyways. Slash she needs to be honest with me if she is going to be avoiding me. I'd be lying if I said that I've fully accepted the fact that we're broken up for good. It just seems silly to me that we're both not over one another and broken up for reasons that, given time, could be fixed.
So that's my girlish relationship rant. Hope you enjoyed it! Also, I appreciate you guys being here for me an absurd amount. Y'alls are the best.
Yup, I got back to college on Sunday and my girlfriend broke up with me on Monday. So that wasn't fun. Her reasons were that we "never have anything to talk about anymore" and "we're in such different places" because she's all thinking about her future and kids and a family and I'm all I've got 3 years of college left (which was a reason we weren't originally going to date in the first place) and "it feels different now." Which, I'll give her that last one. It did feel different when I got back, but it's because she was acting weird. The last few days of break, I started to get worried because it started to feel weird between us, but I'd hoped I'd at least have a few days back with her to try and make things work. But she believes that "a good relationship shouldn't need work" because apparently that's what her folks taught her and they have a relationship... call me cynical, but I just don't see how that could be a thing.
So I ended up texting her to meet up and talk for a bit on Thurs. Since I never know the right time for anything/humor is my coping mechanism, I basically continuously made bad jokes as I said everything I wanted to say. Ex "I'm kind of new to this whole break-up thing, how long do we traditionaly have before we get to be friends again" to which she was all "Well of course we'll still be friendly, but you shouldn't be close friend with someone you're not over. So when you're over me" and I was all "how long does that take?" and she was all "I don't know; it depends" and I was all "how will I know?" and she was like "you'll know" and I was all "you know I'm bad with this kinda stuff" and she was all "well, call me when you've made out with someone or have a crush on someone else" and I was all "you know I rarely get crushes. So all I have to do is go make out with someone and we're friend again?" and I don't know why I'm writing so much of this out. Y'all get the point.
Anywho, this weekend also indoor drumline camp, which we're both in. However, yesterday she couldn't make it due to a training seminar she had to go to. So I ended up seeing her at pep band that night, and she was being all weird and avoidy despite the fact that I told her I didn't want that because I wanted things to go back to normal as quickly as possible. Regardless, I pulled her aside to talk after pep band. And (if you're still reading at this point, go you!) this time I was all "You said that we get to be friends again when I'm over you. Does that mean you're over me?" and she was all "I said when we're over each other" to which I was all "no you said when you're over me" (I really, really think she did) and she was all "no I didn't" and I was all "so that means you're not over me?" to which she was all "I'm not over you." And then she didn't come to indoor drumline today because she apparently doesn't feel well... and I'm probably overthinking things, but that's just so out of character for her to not go to a rehearsal because she's feeling unwell.
Mreh. I'm just frustrated. This just doesn't seem like enough to end a relationship that had made both of us so happy. And we were gonna break up at the end of the year anyways. Slash she needs to be honest with me if she is going to be avoiding me. I'd be lying if I said that I've fully accepted the fact that we're broken up for good. It just seems silly to me that we're both not over one another and broken up for reasons that, given time, could be fixed.
So that's my girlish relationship rant. Hope you enjoyed it! Also, I appreciate you guys being here for me an absurd amount. Y'alls are the best.
May the Triforce be with you.
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hi! To be honest, if you're planning to break up eventually anyway, I kinda want to say you should just get it over with now, rather than try and drag things out (which could just make it worse in the end). Her reasons could be better, but a lot people these days don't take relationships as seriously as they should and have rather unrealistic views of how they should work. Any good relationship takes work, but that only helps is both people are comitted to it. I know you want things to go back to normal, but you might actually be better off avoiding her for a while. I know the whole "friends with your ex" thing happens a lot on TV but it doesn't seem to work very often in real life. Might not be the greatest way to end things but perfectly suitable endings to things like that are something else that tends to happen more often in fiction than reality. Personally, I recommend keeping yourself busy with other things rather than obsessing over how to get her back or looking around for a new crush to "get over it". Relationship hunting while on the rebound tends to be a bad idea.
All that said...I don't have a lot of personal experience in this type of thing, and everyone is different. But whatever happens, just don't obsess over her and you'll get over it sooner or later. We're always here if you need to talk, er, type.
All that said...I don't have a lot of personal experience in this type of thing, and everyone is different. But whatever happens, just don't obsess over her and you'll get over it sooner or later. We're always here if you need to talk, er, type.
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Saber Knight
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Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hey.
Thing is, I'm going to be seeing her a lot since we're both in pep band and indoor drumline, and we have a lot of the same friends. To drop her whole friend group because I'm not supposed to be friends with her anymore would just be beyond awful. Not to mention she was one of my closest friends on campus before we started dating, so losing her as a girlfriend sucks enough, but losing her as a friend on top of that is also painful. I have zero plans on looking for a new crush to get over it... like I said, I very rarely get crushes on people. And I'm sure in a week or two I'll be ready to completely resign myself to us being broken up for good... but 'til then, there's nothing I can do about the way I feel.
Most of the time, I'm doing just fine, but every once and a while I suddenly feel just so empty inside and like there's something missing. Last night I was at a party with friends and doing just fine, then suddenly it all came over me and two seconds later I was out on the porch being hugged by one of my friends and barely able to keep myself from crying. Ugh. I hate being like this.
Though I did get a free piece of pizza when I escorted my friends to town for drunk snacks at 2 AM. So that was pretty cool.
Thing is, I'm going to be seeing her a lot since we're both in pep band and indoor drumline, and we have a lot of the same friends. To drop her whole friend group because I'm not supposed to be friends with her anymore would just be beyond awful. Not to mention she was one of my closest friends on campus before we started dating, so losing her as a girlfriend sucks enough, but losing her as a friend on top of that is also painful. I have zero plans on looking for a new crush to get over it... like I said, I very rarely get crushes on people. And I'm sure in a week or two I'll be ready to completely resign myself to us being broken up for good... but 'til then, there's nothing I can do about the way I feel.
Most of the time, I'm doing just fine, but every once and a while I suddenly feel just so empty inside and like there's something missing. Last night I was at a party with friends and doing just fine, then suddenly it all came over me and two seconds later I was out on the porch being hugged by one of my friends and barely able to keep myself from crying. Ugh. I hate being like this.
Though I did get a free piece of pizza when I escorted my friends to town for drunk snacks at 2 AM. So that was pretty cool.
May the Triforce be with you.
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
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Saber Knight
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Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hey.
The remainder of this post is more relationship-related ranting. Apologies, but it's really nice to vent.
So she came to indoor drumline today and didn't acknowledge my existence. Whatever. Then, when we broke for lunch and we were all in a group deciding where to go, she just wordlessly booked it somewhere else. Then, after rehearsal, when we were all just kind of milling around, our friend Inky showed up (he's not in indoor drumline) and she was talking to him and I went over to say hi as well, and the second I entered the conversation she walked away. UGH she said she wouldn't do any weird avoiding me stuff, but she's treating me like a freaking ghost! It's awful... She also was like, though we may not be friends for a while, we'll still be friendly, and this is most certainly not friendly.
I hate this.
The remainder of this post is more relationship-related ranting. Apologies, but it's really nice to vent.
So she came to indoor drumline today and didn't acknowledge my existence. Whatever. Then, when we broke for lunch and we were all in a group deciding where to go, she just wordlessly booked it somewhere else. Then, after rehearsal, when we were all just kind of milling around, our friend Inky showed up (he's not in indoor drumline) and she was talking to him and I went over to say hi as well, and the second I entered the conversation she walked away. UGH she said she wouldn't do any weird avoiding me stuff, but she's treating me like a freaking ghost! It's awful... She also was like, though we may not be friends for a while, we'll still be friendly, and this is most certainly not friendly.
I hate this.
May the Triforce be with you.
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
"To love another person is to see the face of God." ~ Victor Hugo
"Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid." ~ William Ernest Henley
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
After reading everything you have said it looks like classic avoidance brake up to me. She probs feels awful about braking up with you, she may still even have feelings for you, so she is avoiding you to either stop herself from getting feelings of regret or feelings of guilt from braking up with you.
From what you say about her she doesn't sound like she'd be doing this to hurt you, she probs feels awful about the brake up and is avoiding you to either try to forget about it or not hurt your feelings.
I think you should cool things of for a while and let her approach you. It will be one big mess for a while and you need to let things fall back into place on there own or you will not be friends afterwards.
I hate to say this but things will probs never be the same between the two of you, but if you give each other space and don't try to push her there is a chance you could come out civil to each other and be able to hang out again.
Also it is snowing here! Like 2 inches and the whole world is running late...We really can't handle snow, even when we know it is coming
From what you say about her she doesn't sound like she'd be doing this to hurt you, she probs feels awful about the brake up and is avoiding you to either try to forget about it or not hurt your feelings.
I think you should cool things of for a while and let her approach you. It will be one big mess for a while and you need to let things fall back into place on there own or you will not be friends afterwards.
I hate to say this but things will probs never be the same between the two of you, but if you give each other space and don't try to push her there is a chance you could come out civil to each other and be able to hang out again.
Also it is snowing here! Like 2 inches and the whole world is running late...We really can't handle snow, even when we know it is coming
"BOW BEFORE THE SHAUNINESS THAT IS SHAUNI! "--Shadowman
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hi! Shauni is probably right, so I won't comment on that.
For me, it's MLK Jr. Day, so no school. Yesterday was my go out and have fun though. Today my exciting plans include grocery shopping, working on the story I'm writing, and maybe vacuuming the apartment. I was trying to coax a friend of mine to hang out, but pulling her away from studying (even if she's already spent plenty of time doing so), is extremely difficult.
For me, it's MLK Jr. Day, so no school. Yesterday was my go out and have fun though. Today my exciting plans include grocery shopping, working on the story I'm writing, and maybe vacuuming the apartment. I was trying to coax a friend of mine to hang out, but pulling her away from studying (even if she's already spent plenty of time doing so), is extremely difficult.
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Been training a new starter all week at work, so been busy...I've got a new boyfriend, hes very nice 
Just doing my usual thing, nothing to report really...
Oh finally got a PS3 and playing Heavy Rain.
Any PS3 exclusive games anyone can recommend? If it was out on Xbox as well I've probs got it.
Just doing my usual thing, nothing to report really...
Oh finally got a PS3 and playing Heavy Rain.
Any PS3 exclusive games anyone can recommend? If it was out on Xbox as well I've probs got it.
"BOW BEFORE THE SHAUNINESS THAT IS SHAUNI! "--Shadowman
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
"Shauni fell down a drainage ditch and died. That was the end of her pokemon journey. "--Shauni
Go to ROM the Comic
Re: Return of the Revenge of the Son of Saying Hi to Josiah!
Hi! PS3 exclusives, you say? Well just to start there's the ICO & Shadow of the Colossus Collection (unless you already have both on PS2), Flower, Journey, Metal Gear Solid 4 (assuming you've played the rest of the series), and Uncharted (some of those are downloadable). There are lots more, but it depends what kind of games you want. I mean, for platformers you have Ratchet and Clank and LittleBigPlanet, action/adventure there's Infamous and God of War, lots of Japanese RPGs too like Tales of Graces and a bunch of Nippon Ichi and Atlus titles... You might just want to skim over my game list.